Life's Little...And Not So Little...Challanges

Hey All,

This my first blog on this site, so I'm hoping you will all enjoy the things I have to say....

Tell me this, have you ever wondered, why do things always seem so much more difficult when you finally really that challenging stage of life we refer to as adulthood? You do? Me too.

My life was never easy, right from the start, and I never expected it to get any easier, but I look at it this way, it's not meant to be easy, but it can be....fun.

Now I can almost hear you asking yourself, fun? what on earth is this girl talking about? But believe me when I say its true. Life isn't always fun and I know that more than most people. What with my life including so many challenges. But it is life's challenges that do have the potential to make life...fun.

When I was only two years old, my parents were told that I would never walk and never talk, and yet here I am 19 years later, not only walking, but walking unaided a lot of the time, and not only talking, but talking more articulately and with much more of a vocabulary than is expected from a child of my generation.  I have faced the physical disability Cerebral Palsy from the age of 18 months, as this is the age that the disability first presents itself in children who have it, and I have also faced a life dealing with Asperger's Sydrome, which is on the Austism Spectrum, although this was only discovered at the age of 15 years.

Now I am one month off my 21st birthday, I have an amazing boyfriend, wonderful family, and now I am also taking steps to commence a Bachelor of Education P-10. But I'm not beginning to think that my life is now going to get easy from here on in. Let me assure you, far from that. My life's difficulties have only begun to appear.

For a person with Aspergers Syndrome, beginning a romantic relationship and maintaining it is one of the most difficult things they will ever face in their lives. I once had a person tell me that the things that an Aspergers sufferer can do that condtradict their symptoms, such as maintaining eye contact with others and having the ability to empathise, are learned behaviours. They even told me about a married couple in which the wife suffers from the symptoms of Aspergers Sydrome, this wife was heard and witnessed to have said that she was married to her husband purely for the sexual element of their relationship and that she was incapable of feeling love for her husband. Now this admittedly put a bit of a dampener on my own relationship, as I begun to doubt my own reasons for being with my boyfriend.

I thought about this for a very long time, and in this time, we fought, we weren't as close and I found myself wanting more out of our relationship. Until I realised something, I have also had people tell me that not every Aspie (Aspergers Sufferer) has the same symptoms or the same thought processes. I wasn't like that woman, I was my own woman and I was in love with my man, and so, I went about trying to fix our problems created by the things that other people had said, and came to the resolve that we were going to have our relationship on our terms, without allowing others to make us doubt ourselves.

Since my boyfriend and I have come to this conclusion, I have learned a lot about my Asperger's and how to control the way it makes me act, think and feel. You may not believe that this is possible, but I am a strong believer of the impossible becoming the possible, and I hope that this allows other people to have this belief as well.

So how can life's little and not so little challenges make life fun? Finding ways to overcome these challenges and begin facing others is are simply in the mind, positive thought processes mean positive outcomes and a positive life, which is, in turn....fun. It is the negative thought processes that drag down the human race and make life miserable. So I issue the challenge...think positive...and, Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.

Peace guys. See you next time. :)